How To Give Head

How To Give Head: Secrets of Irrumatio

2010-05-25T01:36:00.000-07:00

Today I'm going to talk about a technique that many couples don't use for different reason. The main reason why they don't use this technique is that they've gotten stuck in their roles. Now, it's beyond the scope of this post to delve deeply into the different roles that the man and the woman have in a relationship, but you can say that the male and the female get stuck in their heads, playing the same roles that they play in the outside world.

Sex is not about playing roles. Sex is about letting go of the roles, being yourself and communicating on a deep, primal level with your man. The next head technique I'm going to share with you in just a second is a technique that is attractive for that very reason: Letting go of the roles and getting primal.

What I want to talk to you about is irrumatio, or mouth-fucking. This is where you let go and let your man control your head and do whatever he wants with you. This can be a huge turn on for both yourself and your man, for the exact opposite reasons: He likes it because it puts him in a position of control and power, and you might like it because it puts you in a position of helplessness. Classic dominance and submission.

If you want to initiate this, while he's standing in front of you, take his hands and put them on the back of your head. This will be an insane turn on for him. When you've done this, start bobbing back forth with your mouth over his penis, and at the same time dictate how fast his hands should go with the help of your own hands. After a while, let go of your hands and let him take control of the process.

Now, sometimes the guy might get a little too excited and start fucking your mouth in a way that is too aggressive or to deep for you to handle. If it's too much, let him know that. This is really about getting carnal, but you don't want to hurt yourself over it (if you're not into that sort of thing, that is).

If you want more tips on how to give great head, I suggest you check out the all new Great Head Guide!

How To Give Head Technique #36

2010-05-24T02:12:00.000-07:00

In order to learn how to give the best head known to man, you have to use everything that is available to you. That includes your mouth, tongue, teeth and something that people sometimes don't think about: the hands.

I know some women (and some men) think that a blowjob shouldn't really include the hands. "Only the mouth is allowed". Personally, I think that's nonsense. This is not some sort of competition, this is about pleasure. And I think that if you can give your man more oral pleasure by using your hands then DO IT!

So what can you do with your hands? A better question would almost be "what CAN'T you do with your hands?"! Here are two of my favorite techniques when it comes to using your hands:

1. While you're giving him a blowjob, wet one of your hands and wrap it TIGHTLY around his cock. After you've done this, follow your mouth as closely as you can. Make sure to keep the whole business as wet as possible; extra lubrication is always helpful! What this technique does is that your hand is going to mimic you having a really deep mouth. That is why it's so great: even if you can't deep throat him, it will still FEEL like you're giving him the deepest blowjob he's had in his life!

2. While you're giving him a great blowjob with one of your hands around his cock and your head bobbing up and down over his cock, you should put your other hand to use! Do this:

Take your other hand and place it right beneath his nut sack. Make sure you don't put any pressure on his balls as that would be excruciatingly painful for him. There's a spot between his ball sack and his anus that is extremely sensitive. It's sort of "fleshy", so it shouldn't be that big of a problem to find it. Once you've found it, take two of your fingers and push on it pretty firmly. Do this while you continue the other motions.

Those two tips will take you FAR if you implement them properly, which I hope you will. If you want more tips on how to give great head, I suggest you check out the Great Head Guide!

Blowjob Tips: A Run Down on Basic Male Anatomy

2010-05-20T10:49:00.000-07:00

As we have many, many visitors each and every day, I am guessing that some of you are not as advanced as you would like to be. Some of you might not have even covered the basics yet. Maybe you're young, or maybe you see sex as something special and haven't had a chance to experiment yet.

This articles for you, as I'm going to give you a few tips on how you can give a good blowjob.

If you're completely green, I need to give you a quick rundown on male anatomy:

A man's genital area consists of his cock, his nut sack, his balls and if you would like to include it, his anus. Now a few things you need to know:

1. His balls are super sensitive. This is something you might know of but not truly know before you actually go too far and he tells you to stop. As sensitive as you might think that they are, they are probably even more sensitive.

2. Teeth are out of the question. When you are new, most women (before they realize that they're causing him to chafe), you will most likely not be aware of the fact that you're supposed to wrap in your teeth under your lips. Now, there is a way to use your teeth in a sexually arousing manner when giving head, but if you're new there are better, more fruitful and less risky places to experiment in.

3. His cock can take a beating. For whatever reason, most women know that men have a very sensitive genital area. Maybe they've seen something get hit in the balls in real life, or on youtube. Maybe they've heard male friends describe the incredible pain. That is all well and good, but unfortunately, a misconception has occurred amongst some: while the balls are super sensitive, the cock is NOT. In fact, it actually feels GOOD if you are more aggressive with his cock. Don't be afraid to hurt it, it's not called a BONEr for nothing.

How to Give Head: Quick Guide

2010-05-19T05:15:00.000-07:00

Not all of you will have the luxury of reading the fantastic Great Head Guide (even though you should make the time sooner rather than later, it will definitely pay off!). Sometimes, you're just in search of a quick run-down on how you can boost your performance QUICKLY! Maybe your man's in the other room already?

Then let's get to it!

If I only have three minutes to explain a few things on how to give great head, those things would be foreplay, attitude and confidence. I can in no way give you an extensive walk through of these topics in just a few sentences (look at the Great Head Guide for that, or the How To Give a BJ blog!) but here goes:

Foreplay. Also known as "Getting your man going before YOU get going". It's the simplest and most sure-fire way of improving your performance and his perceived pleasure ACROSS THE BOARD. A fantastic foreplay session before you start will catapult his pleasure. You could still be using your old lame techniques, but if they're preceded by a proper foreplay session he will worship you like you were the Goddess of his religion!
Attitude. What many girls like yourself forget is that it's not all about what you do, but more importantly about how you do it. Thing is, if you jump in the sack and start sucking him off like he just put a gun to your head and forced you, he's not going to enjoy it (unless he's of the kinky kind!). Most guys are very similar to most girls: They like to be liked. In other words: He WANTS YOU TO WANT HIM, and HE WANTS YOU TO WANT HIS COCK!
Confidence. If you don't know what the fuck you're doing, still act like you do. A little uncertainty can be cute, but full on paralyzation is NOT. If you work it like you mean it (implicitly of course, you need to actually mean it!) then that will overshadow any lack in your technique.

Those three quick tricks will definitely let you get your man go where he needs to go. They might not me those quick directly applicable TECHNIQUES that everyone thinks they need (which they actually don't!) but implement them and they will put you in the right MINDSET to create something beautiful. With that said, this quick start guide on how to go give great head is officially DONE!

How To Give Head To a Guy

2009-11-03T02:52:00.000-08:00

You need to love giving head to your guy. That's the absolute most important lesson I can share with you on how to give head in this short article. Techniques, tricks and other practical aspects definitely help, but if you lack the right core intentions, then nothing will help you.

So Why Is This So Important? Because if you don't enjoy doing it, you'll never learn how to give head. And if you don't enjoy doing it, you'll never be enthusiastic about it. And believe it or not, enthusiasm plays a big part of what turns your man on.

What most women don't realize is that men are also very mental creatures. I think that the image or persona of the masculine, sturdy man that lives completely in the realm of logic is a false man. Guys do get turned on by a lot of the same things that you get turned on by. They're not simple physical-needs-only type of creatures.

Say after me;

The Mind Is The Greatest Aphrodisiac!

So what can you do to get him turned on and excited? Even though the ATTITUDE is at the core of it all, there are still subtle ways that you can trigger his mental excitement and turn the heat up. Learning how to dirty talk is one of those things. It's a really potent way of triggering his fantasies and getting the mental imagery going in his head, although it can be hard to learn how to dirty talk properly if you don't have the proper "physical game" to back it up; you should first learn how to give great head before you continue on down that path.

Another way is to give him long, wet stares while you give him a blowjob. The prolonged eye contact gives him a glimpse of your desire and shows him a lot of attractive traits; your lust, your connection and even your submission. Also, don't get caught on that last word.

Some women start thinking "Oh, but I'm not submissive! We're equals!" No. That's not what this is about. Pure, bestial and steaming sexuality is boundless and label-less. Being submissive doesn't make you neither less or more of a person. Neither is true of being dominant. Remember that next time when you are giving him head; leave the character you call yourself at the door and let yourself fully immerse in the sexual experience and take place in a beautiful sexual play between two people.